Friday, 14 June 2013

Is It Okay to Flirt with Your Boss?


Most people would probably agree that it’s not a good idea to flirt with your boss.  Their opinions might not be so clear, however, if you limit the definition of flirting to “eye contact, smiles, jokes, work-related compliments, and touching on the hand or arm.”  People flirt because it’s fun and this doesn’t change because someone is your boss.  It might even make it more exciting.  You’re more likely to enjoy coming into work if you know that some friendly flirtation with your boss will break up the monotony of the day.  This in turn can cause you to be more productive, which is as good a reason as any to flirt with your boss. 

Others might flirt with their bosses for career advancement reasons.  Flirting with your boss can cause him to think more favourably of you, perhaps without realizing quite why.  Some view flirting with as a legitimate form of networking.  If telling your boss that his presentation was great and joking that’s he’s the office rock star (because no one else parties like him) can earn you a pay raise or bonus, wouldn’t you be tempted to do so?

Well, there are some very good reasons why you shouldn’t.  Firstly, do you really want to be known as someone who uses his looks and charm to get ahead, rather than working hard like everyone else?  People like to think that success is the direct result of hard work, not flirtation.  Some of these people may be principled, while others may simply be jealous that they themselves can’t flirt themselves to a promotion the way you can.  Whatever the reason they oppose you; there are several ways they can make your time at work difficult.  They could spread rumours that you’re having an affair with your boss, whether or not that’s true.   Even if you can prove your innocence, such reputations tend to stick.  Furthermore, they may spread their intelligence further afield by informing your partner about your behaviour at work (perhaps even with embellishments). 

Even if no one else notices or cares, your boss may not be impressed with your attempts at flirting.  Maybe he just isn’t interested at all.   Or maybe he sees your flirtation as an attempt to curry favour or win advancement and isn’t impressed that you think he’s so easily swayed.  You do not want to anger someone who has influence over your employment status.  He is also in a position of power (perhaps this is the very thing that makes him attractive), and would be able to make your time at work uncomfortable should he so choose. 

Finally, although you aren’t taking the same risks she would be if she was flirting with you, you are still leaving yourself open to allegations of sexual harassment.  This is never a position you want to be in, as those sorts of accusations often stick long after they’re proven false.  It seems the risks outweigh the rewards, but that doesn’t stop people from flirting with their bosses every day.  If you insist on being one of them, be aware of the pitfalls and good luck!

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