Flirting with a Married Woman

Flirting with a married woman can be complicated, but there are some ways to simply the interaction.  It is safest to assume that she is flirting for fun.  True, her marriage could be awful and she could be looking for the young man of her dreams to make her feel sexy again, but that won’t become clear until much later.  Initially at least, you should approach the situation as if she is a lesbian: have fun and maybe you’ll make a new friend. 

Once you’ve spotted your married woman, make eye contact with her, smile, and then look away.  Repeat once or twice and see if she does the same.  Give her an opportunity to approach you.  If you are with friends, isolate yourself for a few minutes in case she’s too shy to come up to a crowd.  If she doesn’t come up to you, but you sense that she’s open to conversation (smiling at you, making eye contact, etc.), say hello to her.  As her a question about the location the two of you are at and what you’re doing.  This will allow her to express her interest or lack thereof with either a contribution to the conversation or a monosyllabic answer.

If she wants to talk to you, congratulations.  This is your chance to shine.  Don’t be rude or swear excessively, but have fun.  Tease her in a friendly manner about things unlikely to offend her.  Show your intelligence when talking about your hobbies and interests.  Ask her about her interests and give her a chance to teach you about something she’s knowledgeable about.  Ask her opinion about a story you tell or some other aspect of the conversation.  This will show that you value her thoughts and insight.  Don’t be afraid to ask briefly about her house or kids (if she has any), but be ready to take the conversation elsewhere immediately if she doesn’t want t0 talk about them.  Acknowledge her married life but don’t dwell on it.

While you are talking to her, you can try lightly touching her hand, her arm, or her back and see how she responds.  Doe she move away or draw closer?  Run your hand through your hair once or twice and she might wonder what it would feel like to do the same to you.  Watch to see if she does the same to her hair, mirroring your movements.  This is a sign of attraction. 

At some point in the conversation you may get a feeling as to whether she is just talking to you because it’s fun and has no intention of breaking her marriage vows or that she would like to get to know you better one-on-one.  If you suspect it’s the latter, you need to be aware that it might not be all no-strings-attached fun.  It may result in the destruction of her marriage and a very angry husband.  She may even be looking for something serious and long-term as some people prefer to line up a second relationship before leaving the first.  Should you get her number, keep in mind that hooking up with her could have serious consequences that doing the same with unattached woman does not.