Flirty Clothing

If you’re looking to flirt, you should dress in a way that that makes you look and feel your best because when you feel comfortable and confident, others will notice.  They key is to try new things, wear clothes that fit properly, chose outfits that show off your best features, and to harness the power of accessories.

People notice change, so if you want eyes on you, try something different.  Wear a new piece of jewellery or a new outfit. Your clothes and accessories don’t have to be expensive.  Or even new (vintage is in right now!).  Watch the sale racks at stores you like and hit up thrift stores if you have the time to sift through all the duds to find the treasure.  Look for high-quality fabrics and construction so that your bargain find will last.  Buying a few different accessories can keep the same outfit looking fresh each time you wear it, so they are often a good investment if you want to be noticed.

Your clothes should fit properly.  If they’re too large, you look like a child playing dress up in adult clothing or as if you’re trying to hide something. That won't make you look confident.  Wearing something too small can make even people with enviable figures look like they’ve been stuffed into a sausage casing.  It’s unattractive and uncomfortable.  Learn what sorts of cuts, colours, and sizes flatter you.  Women’s clothing should hug curves without clinging to them.  Men’s clothing should skim the body.  Women should wear shoes they can walk in as sore feet can ruin a day or night out.  If heels make you feel sexy, go ahead, but there’s nothing wrong with a nice pair of flats or sneakers.  Some men prefer a woman who appears to be low maintenance, sometimes doing so can actually work in your favour.  If your clothes fit, you’ll be more comfortable and it will show in your demeanour.

Not only should your clothes fit, they should flatter your body type.  This means that they emphasize the features that you like and camouflage the ones you are less happy with.  If your legs are short, tuck in your shirt to look taller. Dark jeans and black flatter most figures (if you are a slim man, you may wish to avoid black to keep from looking even smaller).  Choose lighter colours if you’d like to add some visual bulk to your frame.  If you decide to go the all-black route, make sure you include a few colourful accessories to avoid looking like a funeral director.  If you have a long neck, turtlenecks are okay, but those with short or thick necks should stick to V-necks.  If possible, have your clothes tailored to ensure the best fit possible. Straight leg jeans won’t make your legs look like toothpicks the way skinny jeans can. 

Ladies, if your waist is small in comparison with your hips and bust show it off with a wrap dress or a belt.  High-waisted pants are a good choice if you don’t want parts of you hanging out when you reach up or bend down.  If your legs are long and slim, rock those skinny jeans and tapered pants.  Details on a top and pockets on jeans can make a small bust and bottom look larger.  Wear clothes that are tighter in areas you like, and skim over those you don’t.  It’s okay to show some skin.  How much skin and where will depend on your body type and venue.  What’s okay at the beach or the club isn’t necessarily appropriate for the office.  You should either display cleavage, midriff, or leg, but never more than one.  The amount of skin shown for each of this is also situation dependent.  A “short” skirt may fall just above the knee at work but may leave too much to the imagination at a party, so use common sense. 

Men who are overweight should avoid horizontal stripes and embrace vertical ones, while the opposite goes for slim men. Shorter men can wear shoes with heels, so long as their pants are long enough to hide the heel. They can also keep eyes on their faces rather than their heights by wearing accessories near their faces (scarves, necklaces, etc.).  Certain styles of hat can add an extra inch or two of height.  Pants with the shortest possible distance between the crotch and the waistband will create the illusion of longer legs. 

Some items you should consider wearing are dangly earrings (if you’re a woman), soft fabrics, and sexy underwear.  The earrings, especially when paired with pulled-back hair and bare shoulders, will draw attention to the neck, a sensual and too-often overlooked part of the body.  They should not be worn during the day, however.  If you wear fabrics that feel good, you’ll be more comfortable, want to touch yourself (in a PG sense), and will “invite” touch from others.  Finally, what is the point of having a sexy outfit on if you have frumpy underwear underneath?  You might wonder why it matters if no one else will see them (hey, not everyone can charm off a stranger’s clothes right off the bat).  You will know and you will feel sexy knowing, this aids in self confidence.    

Of course, these are guidelines.  When it comes to fashion in particular, rules are meant to be broken.  Wear whatever’s appropriate for the occasion and makes you feel comfortable.  If you have a friend whose style you admire, take him shopping with you or have him help you go through your closet.  It always helps to get a second opinion.  Looking and feeling great is step one in becoming the sort of person everyone wants to get to know.