Flirting with your girlfriend or wife is different than flirting
with a woman you’ve just met. When
you’re flirting with a recent acquaintance, you’re measuring the attraction
between you and determining whether or not you should be friends, sleep
together, or begin a relationship, but you and your girlfriend or wife have
already decided to make it all three.
Flirting also loses its subtlety.
It usually provides a socially acceptable way to imply your interest
without having to voice it, as this allows the other party to accept or reject
your interest by continuing or ending something as unrelated as a conversation
about the weather. This double layer of
meaning is no longer necessary when flirting with someone you are in a
relationship with. Your goal in flirting
with her should be to have fun, but also to remind her why she chose you and
why this continues to be a good choice even when newer (and therefore more
exciting) men come along.
It’s no secret that most women enjoy romance. Some prefer grand gestures while others
prefer a note or text that simply says “I love you”. Sex is just one of the many ways in which
they like you to express your love. In
public, there are several things you can do to make her feel loved. As long as it doesn’t make her feel
uncomfortable, engage in public displays of affection. Hold her hand or put your arm around
her. Kiss her hello and goodbye. Bring her lunch at work or at home. Take her on a surprise date. See if she’d be willing to go on a second
first date with you (and let you take her home afterward). Dedicate a song to her on the radio if you
know she listens to a particular station.
Praise her in front of others.
Tell them she’s beautiful, a great cook, or amazing at a particular sport
or video game.
When you’re at home, you can turn up the flirtation. If you drive or walk up and she’s outside,
wolf whistle or cat call her (unless you suspect this will make her
uncomfortable) to show her you think she’s hot.
Surprise her with a small gift, such as candy. It shouldn’t be expensive; that’s not the
point. Try to look your best for
her. Bathe regularly and keep yourself
well-groomed. When she dresses up or
spends extra time on her makeup or hair, instead of complaining about how long
it takes, tell her how good she looks or how much you appreciate the extra effort
she puts in. When you kiss her, kiss her
for a few extra seconds. A peck is okay
sometimes, but this makes your kisses special and memorable. Mail her a letter. E-mail, phone calls, and text messages are
fine, but receiving physical mail nowadays is a treat and will make her feel
special. Talk to her about her interests
and how her day went and she’ll appreciate that you care. Play a silly game with her: tell you you’re
going to have a kissing contest and the first person to break away from the kiss
loses.
You might be wondering where all the sexy stuff is, or be
thinking that these things will make you look sappy. Try doing one of these things every day and
you will likely see an improvement in the bedroom as well. A woman is more likely to feel confident and
sexy when she feels secure in your love and that you’re attracted to her. The point is for the two of you to have fun
and for you to remind her why you’re the guy she chose.
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