Flirting at the Beach

What better place to meet new people than the beach?  People seem to be in a better mood in the summer time and are looking to get out of the house and have fun.  There are plenty of people hoping to be noticed and wearing not much of anything. 

Preparations should start before you even leave home.  You want to find a balance between dressing to show off your body to its best advantage and wearing something that will make you feel comfortable.  It’s hard to feel sexy when you’re fiddling with clothes that don’t fit correctly or make you feel too exposed.  If you’re a woman with great legs but feel that your stomach could use some work, try a bikini with high-waisted bottoms (think Marilyn Monroe) and a short, loose dress as a cover up.  Men should wear trunks and a properly-fitted t-shirt (the shoulder seams should actually be at your shoulders).  Pack yourself a cooler with a variety of drinks in ice, a battery-operated radio, and a Frisbee and/or volleyball. 

Once you get to the beach, find yourself a spot to serve as your “base.”  Spread out your towels and unpack your radio and cooler.  Ideally, it should be the spot nearest the greatest number of attractive girls.  Ask a girl or group of girls what their favourite station or type of music is and set the radio to that.  If someone says they’re thirsty, ask if they’d like one of your drinks.  Either of these can serve as an icebreaker.  If they want to chat, great!  If not, you’re only out a drink. 

If you have friends with you, start a game of Frisbee or volleyball.  If you spot someone you’d like to talk to, send the ball her way.  Apologize for disturbing her.  See if she’s interested in talking more by offering her a drink or inviting her to join the game.  Frisbee can be played in the water with as much as or as little tackling as her comfort level permits.  If she doesn’t want to play, don’t sound disappointed.  Say, “Okay, see you around!”  and get back to hanging out with your friends.  Don’t give her a second look.  If she decides she wants to play, she’ll come over.

If you aren’t having great success with the people around your base, try going for a walk.  Find someone you think is good-looking, make eye contact, and smile.  If she smiles back, say something to your friends in a low voice.  Hopefully she will assume it’s about her.  Walk by her once or twice, check her out, and then smile to show that you’re impressed.  This might encourage her to come say hello, but if not, try moving away from your friends for a few minutes to give her the opportunity to greet you alone.  If she still doesn’t come by, but returns your smiles, it’s up to you.  Ask her a question about the beach to give her a chance to indicate whether or not she’s interested in talking to you by either pursuing a conversation or answering you as quickly and as coolly as possible.  Playing with her cell phone is an example of a negative signal.  If she wants to talk to you, tease her a little, but break it up with a beach-centred compliment (her swimming, her preparedness, her volleyball skills, etc.).

If you have been talking or playing for a while, and she seems to be enjoying your company, ask for her phone number.  The best part about asking a stranger is you either get the number or you don’t, but at least you won’t ever have to see her again.  Plus, nothing’s stopping you from going further down the beach and trying again.