Flirting with a Husband or a Boyfriend

Flirting with a husband or a boyfriend is different from flirting with someone you’ve just met.  Usually flirting tests your mutual interest and implicitly asks the question “Should we have a relationship/sleep together/be friends?”  Your husband or boyfriend has already decided he wants to be in a relationship with you, sleep with you, and be your friend.  Your goal in flirting is to remind him why that was a great choice on his part and why you are still the best option.

When you are flirting with your boyfriend or husband, you don’t need to come up with excuses to approach him and you already know what his interests are, but flirting often doesn’t come as easily as when you first started seeing each other.  Try flirting when you aren’t together and see if the sparks fly like they used to when you actually are.  Send him suggestive texts, but make sure he doesn’t share them and remembers to delete them.  Leave him a message on the mirror in dry erase marker.  These will keep him thinking of you even when you’re apart. 

You can definitely keep the heat up even when in public without making out like teenagers (though if you want to, go right ahead).  Make lots of eye contact and give him a smile.  Whisper something naughty to him.  Wear an outfit you know he likes, even if you aren’t particular fond of it.  When you are together around others, praise him.  Brag to your friends in his hearing and tell your kids (if you have any) what a great dad (or step-dad) they have.  If you two are feeling adventurous, try asking him to go on a second first date or go to a bar and pretend to meet for the first time, all the while knowing that you get to take each other home. 

At home, you can have even more fun.  Reference inside jokes only the two of you will understand.  This will remind him that his lady is funny and that you’ve had good times together.  Make good on those texts!  Wear some lingerie that shows off his favourite part of your body (or nothing at all).  If you have a closet, drag him into it and make out for a while.  Give the closet a silly name and try to make regular visits.  Be silly and run up to him and tag him “it.”  Tell him if he catches you he can do whatever he likes with you.  On a less sexy, but still important note, tell him when he’s right.  Don’t do it grudgingly; show that you’re proud that he’s smart and gives good advice. 

If you do all these things, your husband should feel appreciated and lucky that he has you.  When your relationship is strong, you don’t have to worry about other women flirting with your man, because you know that they won’t get anywhere with him because he’s coming home to you and is glad of it.